Selecting your soul mate
Is he/she the right one for me…. A thought that crosses your mind a million times while u are analyzing your prospective partner. Your belief system, apprehensions, past experiences, expectations –all take a front seat playing a devil’s advocate. Conflict of beliefs and feelings is a normal experience. So the question is how do u identify what do u actually feel and who do u think is the one for u.
To begin with…
Start with a clean slate:
Each individual has his /her own identity, values system and interests. Every person deserves a fair chance so don’t let your past experiences typecast a person. Remember, every individual is different.
Attraction can grow once you get to know a person more and their personality. Some people also take a lot of time to open up and reveal their true self . You may not get a chance to find that out if you don’t take the time to get to know someone.
Look for qualities that would form a strong base for partnership:
Honesty, integrity, Empathy, reliability, kindness and emotional generosity. If u find these qualities in a person it would be a good ides to explore more. Other qualities to look for would be , “sense of humor,” “world traveler,” are nice-to-consider but don’t necessarily have to be there for you to be happy in your relationship
Get rid of your bucket list :
We are dealing with human and human emotions. Many people have a huge list of what qualities their partner has to have. Well, it is almost impossible to find a perfect checklist partner. What is important is to see if the two of you are compatible. Emotional compatibility goes a long way.
Look for someone whom u can be yourself with:
A lifetime is a long long time. For u to be able to spend it with someone, you need to be comfortable with the person. Someone whom you can be yourself with. Someone who accepts you with all your strengths and weaknesses.
Don’t make a hasty decision.
Marriage is a lifetime commitment, so make no haste. Avoid taking decisions under pressure or influence of others. Opinions are good to listen to but the last word would be yours. It is a good idea to invest some time in getting to know a person before u jump the gun. That way you get to discovery the person’s true personality which in turn will help you make your pick
Enjoy the process:
Sometimes u need to turn a lot of pages before you finally like a book. Enjoy the process of meeting people. Sometimes it takes seeing a lot of what you don’t want to figure out what you do want.